“What do you do with the mad that you feel
When you feel so mad you could bite?
When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong…
And nothing you do seems very right?
What do you do? Do you punch a bag?
Do you pound some clay or some dough?
Do you round up friends for a game of tag?
Or see how fast you go?” – Mister Rogers
Everyone gets mad sometimes. But what do you do about it? Lately I’ve found myself not knowing how to release my anger, frustration, or upset feelings and on more than one occasion I found myself slamming a door or two just to vent. But I can’t keep doing that, it’s not healthy and not a good example for my dear daughter!
I started thinking about this thanks to good ol’ Mister Rogers. Everyone has ways that they get over feeling angry, ways to help them calm down. Where are my ways? What’s wrong with me? Was I always like this?
Then I started thinking about what I used to do when I was growing up and I felt angry. What helped me calm down? And I remembered. The number one thing that helped me calm down when I was feeling angry, overwhelmed, etc. was to go OUTSIDE in the fresh air. Take a walk. Sit by the garden. Breathe the fresh air, feel the breeze, think calmly.
Well, there you go, I think that’s why I’ve had such a hard time controlling my feelings… it’s so hard to do that here. Go for a walk by myself? Eh, I -could- but I don’t like to, I have to admit I’m scared, there are too many scary stories in the news here 😛 Get some fresh air? WHAT fresh air??? Sit outside in the lawn? What lawn? Okay, so I can’t do what I used to do (until we move back to the US anyway), but I have to do something!
So I’ve been trying to get outside more in the evenings. We’ve got a puny “yard”, but at least it’s something. Svara loves being outside, too, so I’m trying. I’m going to start a “garden” in our “flower box” outside the living room window, hopefully Svara and I can enjoy growing some things together. I’ve been trying to sit out there with her in the evenings, just playing this or that. She’s got a blow up pool that she likes to play in as well. It’s helped that it has seemed not quite as burning hot out lately, and is a bit breezy. Can’t say the air is fresh, but it’s something…
And in the meantime I think I’ll have to work on some other techniques for calming down. Maybe meditation? Visualization? We’ll see…
What do you do when you feel you can’t take one more spoonful of pasta dropped on the floor?