The Mad That You Feel


“What do you do with the mad that you feel
When you feel so mad you could bite?
When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong…
And nothing you do seems very right?

What do you do? Do you punch a bag?
Do you pound some clay or some dough?
Do you round up friends for a game of tag?
Or see how fast you go?”  – Mister Rogers

Everyone gets mad sometimes.   But what do you do about it?   Lately I’ve found myself not knowing how to release my anger, frustration, or upset feelings and on more than one occasion I found myself slamming a door or two just to vent.  But I can’t keep doing that, it’s not healthy and not a good example for my dear daughter!

I started thinking about this thanks to good ol’ Mister Rogers.  Everyone has ways that they get over feeling angry, ways to help them calm down.  Where are my ways?  What’s wrong with me?  Was I always like this?

Then I started thinking about what I used to do when I was growing up and I felt angry.  What helped me calm down?  And I remembered.  The number one thing that helped me calm down when I was feeling angry, overwhelmed, etc.  was to go OUTSIDE in the fresh air.  Take a walk.  Sit by the garden.  Breathe the fresh air, feel the breeze, think calmly.

Well, there you go, I think that’s why I’ve had such a hard time controlling my feelings…  it’s so hard to do that here.  Go for a walk by myself?   Eh, I -could- but I don’t like to, I have to admit I’m scared, there are too many scary stories in the news here 😛   Get some fresh air?   WHAT fresh air???    Sit outside in the lawn?  What lawn?   Okay, so I can’t do what I used to do (until we move back to the US anyway), but I have to do something!

So I’ve been trying to get outside more in the evenings.  We’ve got a puny “yard”, but at least it’s something.  Svara loves being outside, too, so I’m trying.  I’m going to start a “garden” in our “flower box” outside the living room window, hopefully Svara and I can enjoy growing some things together.  I’ve been trying to sit out there with her in the evenings, just playing this or that.  She’s got a blow up pool that she likes to play in as well.  It’s helped that it has seemed not quite as burning hot out lately, and is a bit breezy.  Can’t say the air is fresh, but it’s something…

And in the meantime I think I’ll have to work on some other techniques for calming down.  Maybe meditation?  Visualization?  We’ll see…

What do you do when you feel you can’t take one more spoonful of pasta dropped on the floor?


3 thoughts on “The Mad That You Feel

  1. That’s a good thing to ponder. Little Elvis is at a very trying stage, and with less than a month to go with the pregnancy, I’m not at a place to deal with his hijinx properly. I will need to think of something better than just leaving him in a room crying while I go somewhere else to calm down.
    Are you in a climate like we are here in the US? Is it almost fall there? Or is it just always hot? Maybe it will cool down for you guys so you can enjoy being outside more.

  2. oh i know what you feel
    screaming in stereo…when one goes the other feels like it must cry too…so i sit on the floor and hold both of them…ahhg
    I need a vent too
    i hear you

  3. Well, I usually yell, and then go to another room and take some deep breaths. When I feel like I have calmed down, and have recollected my senses, I will go back and tell Olee that “I am sorry that I yelled, even when I yell, I always still love you no matter what.” Then give him a big hug and hope for the best. It seems like there are the good days and then there are the bad days, I guess we just hope that they understand that we still love them even on the bad days!

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